Would You Rather Questions for Couples

How to play would you rather with your partner

The rules are simple. Both of you pick a side before anyone explains why. In the game above, tap your answer and you'll see the community split once a card has enough votes. Some picks put you with the crowd. Others put you way out on your own, and that's where the good conversations start.

Start with the funny questions to warm up, then move into deep and money territory once you are both relaxed. It works on a couch, in the car, over dinner, or on a video call if you are doing long distance.

Funny Would You Rather Questions for Couples

Start here. These get a laugh going and make the rest of the deck a lot easier to play.

• 1Would you rather your partner narrates your life like a nature documentary for a week, or your partner refers to you as 'my little snack' in front of your parents, once?
• 2Would you rather only communicate in movie quotes on date night, or only communicate in song lyrics on date night?
• 3Would you rather your partner sees every embarrassing photo from your middle school years, or your partner reads your texts to your best friend from your last relationship?
• 4Would you rather slow dance in a grocery store aisle right now, or serenade your partner in a crowded restaurant right now?
• 5Would you rather your partner picks your outfits for a month, or your partner picks your meals for a month?
• 6Would you rather sneeze uncontrollably every time you try to kiss, or hiccup loudly every time you say something romantic?
• 7Would you rather have your first-date conversation played back at your wedding, or have your last argument played back at your wedding?
• 8Would you rather your partner beats you at every game forever, or your partner lets you win at every game forever and you know it?
• 9Would you rather wear matching outfits every weekend, or share one phone for a month?
• 10Would you rather your pet could talk and give your partner honest updates about you, or your mirror could talk and roast you every morning in front of your partner?
• 11Would you rather laugh uncontrollably during every serious talk, or cry dramatically during every minor inconvenience?
• 12Would you rather your partner's ringtone for you is a recording of you snoring, or your partner's contact photo for you is your worst sleeping face?
• 13Would you rather redo your first date exactly, awkwardness included, or fast forward and skip your next three fights?
• 14Would you rather do a couples workout class taught by your ex, or do a couples cooking class taught by your partner's ex?
• 15Would you rather always have to sing your apologies, or always have to dance your greetings?
• 16Would you rather your partner does your makeup or shaves your face for date night, or you let your partner cut your hair, one snip?
• 17Would you rather every restaurant order gets decided by your partner, or every movie gets picked by your partner?
• 18Would you rather your partner controls the aux on every car ride, forever, or your partner controls the thermostat at home, forever?
• 19Would you rather only pet names in public for a month, or full government names at home for a month?
• 20Would you rather your partner rates your kisses out of 10, out loud, every time, or your partner rates your outfits out of 10, out loud, every day?
• 21Would you rather every argument must be settled by rock paper scissors, or every argument must be settled by a dance-off?

Flirty Would You Rather Questions

Sweet with a little edge. Good for date night when you want the conversation to drift somewhere warmer.

• 1Would you rather a slow kiss in the rain, or a surprise kiss in a crowded room?
• 2Would you rather get a love letter every week, or get a voice note every morning?
• 3Would you rather date night where you both dress up way too much, or date night in pajamas with zero effort allowed?
• 4Would you rather your partner plans a whole day around your favorite things, or your partner recreates the day you met?
• 5Would you rather be complimented on your looks every day, or be complimented on your mind every day?
• 6Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen to your song, or stargaze on the roof with a blanket and snacks?
• 7Would you rather your partner whispers what they love about you in public, or your partner posts what they love about you online?
• 8Would you rather a weekend with no phones, just each other, or a weekend where every hour has a planned surprise?
• 9Would you rather hold hands every time you walk together, no exceptions, or kiss goodbye every time you part, no exceptions?
• 10Would you rather get flowers for no reason, or get your favorite food delivered for no reason?
• 11Would you rather matching tattoos only you two understand, or a secret handshake only you two know?
• 12Would you rather your partner learns your love language perfectly, or your partner learns to cook your comfort meal perfectly?
• 13Would you rather be teased playfully all day, or be doted on all day?
• 14Would you rather first-date butterflies again for one night, or ten-years-in comfort right now?
• 15Would you rather your partner catches you staring at them, or you catch your partner staring at you?
• 16Would you rather a picnic your partner packed entirely from memory of your favorites, or a restaurant where your partner pre-ordered everything you love?
• 17Would you rather get ready together before a night out, or reveal your looks at the door like a movie moment?
• 18Would you rather your partner memorizes your coffee order, or your partner memorizes your entire family's names and birthdays?
• 19Would you rather one year of amazing surprise dates you can't predict, or one year of your dream dates you design yourself?

Deep Would You Rather Questions for Couples

Save these for a quiet night in. They get at values, fears, and what you each want from the future.

• 1Would you rather know exactly what your partner is feeling at all times, or have your partner know exactly what you need at all times?
• 2Would you rather relive your happiest memory together once a year, or make one guaranteed new happy memory every year?
• 3Would you rather your partner always tells you the hard truth, or your partner always protects your feelings?
• 4Would you rather grow old in the town where you met, or grow old somewhere neither of you has ever been?
• 5Would you rather know every lesson your partner learned from past relationships, or keep both of your pasts completely off the table?
• 6Would you rather be the one who loves a little more, or be the one who is loved a little more?
• 7Would you rather solve every fight with a long walk, or solve every fight with a long hug?
• 8Would you rather your partner understands your silence, or your partner always knows the right thing to say?
• 9Would you rather share every meal together forever, or share every morning coffee together forever?
• 10Would you rather watch your partner achieve their biggest dream, or achieve your biggest dream with your partner watching?
• 11Would you rather a partner who remembers every little thing you say, or a partner who forgives every little thing you do?
• 12Would you rather love that feels like excitement, or love that feels like peace?
• 13Would you rather your partner reads your journal and understands you completely, or your partner never reads it and trusts you completely?
• 14Would you rather repeat your best year together five more times, or take five brand new years, no guarantees?
• 15Would you rather be told 'I love you' less but shown it constantly, or hear it every day even when the actions slip?
• 16Would you rather fall asleep talking every night, or wake up early together every morning?
• 17Would you rather your partner never changes from who they are today, or you both keep changing and keep choosing each other?
• 18Would you rather perfect communication, average chemistry, or insane chemistry, communication takes work?
• 19Would you rather your partner knows how you want to be comforted, or your partner knows when to leave you alone?
• 20Would you rather be fully known and occasionally called out, or be endlessly adored and slightly mysterious?

Spicy Would You Rather Questions

For couples who like a little heat. Read the room first, then have fun with it.

• 1Would you rather a hotel night with no plans and no checkout alarm, or a home date with the whole house to yourselves?
• 2Would you rather be the one who plans the whole surprise night, or be the one kept in the dark until you arrive?
• 3Would you rather a massage with zero talking, or a bath with all the talking?
• 4Would you rather recreate your first kiss, same spot, or upgrade it somewhere better?
• 5Would you rather a whole day of flirty texts building up to dinner, or a surprise pickup from work, destination unknown?
• 6Would you rather candlelight and a playlist your partner made, or city lights and a table you can't usually get?
• 7Would you rather your partner picks what you wear tonight, or you pick what your partner wears tonight?
• 8Would you rather dance with no music in the living room, or kiss at the top of a Ferris wheel?
• 9Would you rather a weekend trip booked 12 hours in advance, or a fancy night out planned three weeks ahead?
• 10Would you rather cook together with a strict no-clothes-that-you'd-wear-in-public rule (pajamas count), or order in and eat by candlelight on the floor?
• 11Would you rather a midnight drive with one shared playlist, or a 2am diner run in pajamas?
• 12Would you rather your partner leaves you a note somewhere you'll find it midday, or your partner sends a text that makes you blush in a meeting?

Awkward Would You Rather Questions

Cringe on purpose. Every one of these comes with a story attached, so ask for it.

• 1Would you rather run into your ex on a date with your partner, or run into your partner's ex on the same date?
• 2Would you rather your partner hears you talk about them to your friends, or you hear your partner talk about you to theirs?
• 3Would you rather meet your partner's friends for the first time and blank on every name, or meet their parents for the first time and call their mom the wrong name?
• 4Would you rather meet the parents a month too early, or meet the parents a year too late?
• 5Would you rather your partner scrolls your whole camera roll with zero warning, or your partner reads your notes app top to bottom?
• 6Would you rather trip and fall walking into your anniversary dinner, or call the waiter 'babe' by accident?
• 7Would you rather you accidentally reply-all to your whole office with a pet name for your partner, or your partner accidentally shares a private photo of you to their public story?
• 8Would you rather your card declines on the first date, or you get food stuck in your teeth for the whole first date and nobody tells you?
• 9Would you rather accidentally like a 2014 photo while looking at your partner's old posts, or your partner scrolls to your 2014 captions and reads them out loud?
• 10Would you rather say 'I love you' way too early, or freeze and say 'thanks' when you hear it first?
• 11Would you rather your partner finds your old dating profile screenshots, or you have to read your old bio out loud at dinner?
• 12Would you rather hiccups during your vows, or ugly cry during your toast?

Adventure Would You Rather Questions

For couples plotting the next trip, or still arguing about tents versus cabins.

• 1Would you rather road trip with no route and a full tank, or flight to a city you can't pronounce?
• 2Would you rather camp under the stars with questionable tent skills, or cabin with a fireplace and zero cell service?
• 3Would you rather learn to surf together, or learn to ski together?
• 4Would you rather street food tour in a new country, or one unforgettable fancy meal in that same country?
• 5Would you rather get lost in a foreign city with your partner and no GPS, or navigate perfectly but your partner picked every single stop?
• 6Would you rather sunrise hike with coffee at the top, or sunset beach with takeout in the sand?
• 7Would you rather skydive together once, or scuba dive together once?
• 8Would you rather a spontaneous weekend every month, or one big two-week trip every year?
• 9Would you rather karaoke duet in front of strangers, or dance class where you both have two left feet?
• 10Would you rather move abroad together for one year, or buy a fixer-upper together this year?
• 11Would you rather tandem bike, guaranteed argument, or canoe, guaranteed capsize?
• 12Would you rather festival weekend, no showers, great stories, or resort weekend, great showers, fewer stories?

Money and Future Would You Rather Questions

The practical stuff: money, kids, houses, holidays. Less flashy, way more revealing.

• 1Would you rather a tiny wedding and a massive honeymoon, or a massive wedding and a backyard honeymoon?
• 2Would you rather combine all finances from day one of moving in, or keep everything separate and split bills forever?
• 3Would you rather your partner handles all the budgeting, or you handle all the budgeting?
• 4Would you rather dream house in an okay location, or okay house in a dream location?
• 5Would you rather retire early and live simply, or work longer and live large?
• 6Would you rather splurge on experiences, save on things, or splurge on your home, save on trips?
• 7Would you rather five kids' worth of chaos and love, or zero kids and a passport full of stamps?
• 8Would you rather your partner triples their income but works weekends, or money stays tight but weekends are always yours?
• 9Would you rather a joint bucket list you must finish, or separate bucket lists you cheer each other through?
• 10Would you rather big city forever, or small town forever?
• 11Would you rather a dog you both parent like a firstborn, or a cat that clearly prefers your partner?
• 12Would you rather holidays split perfectly between families, or alternate whole holidays, all-in each year?

Tough Call Would You Rather Questions

Trickier trade-offs with no clean answer. The reasons behind each pick say more than the pick itself.

• 1Would you rather a partner who is always 20 minutes late but fully present, or a partner who is always on time but always a little distracted?
• 2Would you rather they never post you but brag about you privately, or they post you constantly but rarely say it to your face?
• 3Would you rather a partner who needs a lot of alone time, or a partner who wants almost none?
• 4Would you rather they stay friendly with all their exes, or they refuse to ever mention any ex?
• 5Would you rather same fight once a month forever, or a brand new small fight every week?
• 6Would you rather a partner who overshares your life with their family, or a partner whose family knows almost nothing about you?
• 7Would you rather they're glued to their phone but always answer yours, or they ignore their phone, including when you call?
• 8Would you rather brutal honesty about your cooking, or polite lies about everything you make?
• 9Would you rather a partner who plans everything and flexes on nothing, or a partner who plans nothing and goes with anything?
• 10Would you rather they cheer loudest at your wins but disappear during your losses, or they show up for every loss but barely react to wins?
• 11Would you rather a partner who apologizes fast but repeats the mistake, or a partner who takes days to apologize but never repeats it?
• 12Would you rather they tell their best friend everything about your relationship, or they tell no one anything, ever?

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