Dating Community Opinions
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Top Community Green Flags
Showing 1-18 of 100 results1
Takes responsibility for their mistakes
93%5%
Personality Traits348 votes
2
Admits when they are wrong and apologizes
93%6%
Communication457 votes
3
Asks if you got home safely after the date
92%4%
First Date405 votes
4
Actively listens and tries to understand your perspective
92%5%
Long-Term369 votes
5
Shows empathy and understanding
91%8%
Personality Traits372 votes
6
Discusses disagreements calmly and respectfully
91%7%
Communication476 votes
7
Makes an effort with your friends and family
90%5%
Long-Term382 votes
8
Helps you feel comfortable in new social situations
90%7%
Social Behavior366 votes
9
Has a great sense of humor
90%7%
Personality Quirks345 votes
10
Respects when you say no to something
90%8%
Boundaries642 votes
11
Remembers small details you mentioned in earlier conversations
90%6%
First Date398 votes
12
Actively asks how your day was and listens
90%7%
Communication462 votes
13
Shows genuine interest in your hobbies
90%7%
Long-Term396 votes
14
Supports and encourages your goals
90%8%
Future Planning367 votes
15
Compliments your outfit genuinely
89%7%
First Date415 votes
16
Respects your personal space
89%8%
Relationship Boundaries392 votes
17
Expresses their needs clearly and directly
89%6%
Communication436 votes
18
Includes you in conversations and activities
89%8%
Social Behavior371 votes
Top Community Red Flags
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Threatens to leave during every argument
3%95%
Long-Term381 votes
2
Is rude to service workers and staff
2%95%
Social Behavior365 votes
3
Refuses to ever apologize.
3%95%
Long-Term393 votes
4
Blames everyone else for problems
3%95%
Personal Growth349 votes
5
Expects you to give up your dreams
2%95%
Future Planning333 votes
6
Keeps in touch with exes for "backup."
3%94%
Social Behavior359 votes
7
Never admits when they're wrong
4%94%
Personality Traits356 votes
8
Gaslights you and questions your memory
3%94%
Communication438 votes
9
They bring up your past mistakes during unrelated arguments
2%93%
Communication179 votes
10
Tries to turn you against your friends
5%93%
Social Dynamics352 votes
11
Never apologizes or changes behavior
4%93%
Personal Growth365 votes
12
Makes you feel guilty for having personal time
4%93%
Boundaries664 votes
13
Dismisses your feelings as overreactions
4%92%
Communication421 votes
14
Flirts with strangers in front of you.
3%92%
Social Behavior356 votes
15
Uses personal insults during arguments
4%92%
Communication461 votes
16
Ghosts for a week then comes back casually.
3%92%
Online Dating388 votes
17
Pressures you to drink alcohol when you decline
3%92%
First Date380 votes
18
Constantly criticizes your appearance
5%92%
Long-Term387 votes
Most Controversial Scenarios
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Asks about your previous dating experiences in detail
15%50%
First Date490 votes
2
They will not discuss money until you already live together
20%50%
Future Planning235 votes
3
Spends hours every day on social media
12%50%
Lifestyle & Habits471 votes
4
Has mostly friends of the opposite sex.
11%50%
Social Dynamics451 votes
5
Wants to decorate the whole living room with Star Wars posters.
18%50%
Long-Term451 votes
6
Picks a dive bar instead of a restaurant
18%49%
First Date515 votes
7
Doesn't want to own a car.
10%51%
Lifestyle & Habits461 votes
8
Won't ever fly on planes.
10%51%
Lifestyle & Habits483 votes
9
Sends selfies asking "yes or no?" but they're clearly thirst traps.
20%51%
Social Dynamics450 votes
10
Wants to make TikTok couple dances a tradition.
22%49%
Long-Term434 votes
11
Asks for your last relationship length right away
14%52%
Online Dating458 votes
12
Wants completely different numbers of children
11%48%
Deal Breakers550 votes
13
Brings politics up on the first date.
22%48%
First Date481 votes
14
Never posts photos of you two together on social media
14%52%
Long-Term444 votes
15
Never picks the place — says "I'm down for anything."
14%48%
Social Dynamics415 votes
16
They plan the entire date to the minute without asking what you like
15%52%
First Date226 votes
17
Thinks long-distance relationships build character.
19%48%
Future Planning477 votes
18
Thinks every couple should try therapy early in the relationship.
17%53%
Future Planning472 votes
Understanding Dating Community Opinions
Dating norms are constantly evolving, and what one person considers a deal-breaker might be perfectly acceptable to someone else. Our community rankings capture the collective wisdom of thousands of real people who have weighed in on over 500 dating scenarios.
The results often reveal surprising patterns. Some behaviors that seem harmless on the surface turn out to be overwhelmingly rated as red flags, while other seemingly risky behaviors get a pass from most people. The most fascinating insights come from the controversial section, where the community is genuinely split.
Whether you are navigating a new relationship or reflecting on your own dating habits, these community-driven rankings offer a unique window into how people really feel about common dating behaviors. Explore the leaderboards above, or jump directly into the top red flags, top green flags, or most controversial opinions.
Frequently Asked Questions
Every ranking on this page comes from real votes cast by users playing our Red Flag Green Flag game. Each dating scenario is rated as a red flag, green flag, or neutral by thousands of players, and the results are aggregated into the leaderboards you see here.
Rankings update in real time as new votes come in. Every time someone plays the Red Flag Green Flag game and rates a scenario, the percentages and rankings adjust to reflect the latest community consensus.
A scenario is considered controversial when the community is split close to 50/50 between red flag and green flag. These are the dating behaviors where reasonable people genuinely disagree, making them some of the most interesting discussions.
Yes! Click "Play the Game & Add Your Vote" at the top of the page to play the Red Flag Green Flag game. Your votes will immediately count toward the community rankings shown here.
We currently have over 500 dating scenarios across categories like communication, trust, lifestyle, social media, finances, and more. New scenarios are added regularly based on community suggestions and trending dating topics.
Red flags are behaviors the community overwhelmingly considers warning signs in dating. Green flags are behaviors most people see as positive signs. Controversial opinions are scenarios where the community is deeply divided, with nearly equal votes on both sides.