Conflict Resolution Style
What is this quiz?
A quick assessment to identify how you naturally handle disagreements in relationships.
How does it work?
Answer 12 scenario-based questions. We'll match you to one of 5 conflict resolution styles.
What styles are there?
Collaborator, Compromiser, Avoider, Accommodator, and Competitor.
Why does it matter?
Understanding your conflict style helps you navigate disagreements more constructively with your partner.
How long does it take?
About 3-4 minutes. Your progress is saved automatically.
You and your partner disagree on how to spend a bonus. You...
Choose the response that feels most like you
A.Suggest researching options together to find something that excites you both
B.Propose splitting it: half your way, half their way
C.Say 'it's fine, you decide' to avoid the tension
D.Let them have their way because it clearly matters more to them
E.Make your case for why your idea is the better investment
Frequently Asked Questions
Your conflict resolution style is your default approach to handling disagreements and tension in relationships. Based on the Thomas-Kilmann model, it describes how you balance your own needs with your partner's needs during conflicts.
Some people naturally collaborate to find win-win solutions, while others tend to accommodate their partner's wishes or avoid conflict entirely. Understanding your style helps you navigate disagreements more constructively.
This quiz identifies five conflict styles: Collaborator (seeks win-win solutions), Compromiser (finds middle ground), Accommodator (prioritizes partner's needs), Avoider (sidesteps conflict), and Competitor (advocates strongly for own position).
Each style has strengths and situations where it works best. The goal isn't to change your style entirely, but to understand when different approaches might serve you better.
No single style is universally best. Collaboration often leads to the most satisfying outcomes but requires time and energy. Compromise works well for smaller issues. Avoiding can be appropriate when emotions are high and you need space.
The healthiest approach is flexibility. Being able to recognize when to use each style is more valuable than sticking rigidly to one approach regardless of the situation.
Different styles can create friction but also balance. An Avoider paired with a Competitor might struggle, as one withdraws while the other pushes harder. But an Accommodator paired with a Collaborator often finds harmony.
The key is awareness and communication. Share your results with each other and discuss how your styles interact. Take our Communication Style Quiz together for more insight into how you talk through differences.
Start by recognizing your default patterns. Do you shut down? Get defensive? Give in too quickly? Awareness is the first step. Then practice specific skills: active listening, using "I" statements, and taking breaks when emotions run high.
Our Apology Language Quiz can help you understand how to repair after conflicts. Sometimes learning to apologize effectively matters as much as how you argue.
Not always. Strategic avoidance can be healthy. Stepping away when you're too angry to think clearly, choosing not to argue about truly minor issues, or postponing a discussion until you have privacy are all smart uses of avoidance.
The problem is chronic avoidance of important issues. If you consistently sidestep conversations about needs, concerns, or problems, resentment builds. The goal is distinguishing between battles not worth fighting and important discussions you're avoiding out of discomfort.