Love Tank Quiz

The Love Tank is based on Gottman's "Emotional Bank Account" research. Every positive interaction (compliment, quality time, support) is a deposit. Every negative interaction (criticism, dismissal) is a withdrawal.

Healthy relationships maintain around a 5:1 ratio of deposits to withdrawals. This quiz helps you see which of your partner's emotional tanks are full, running low, or need immediate attention.

The quiz measures six emotional need areas: Appreciation (feeling valued and acknowledged), Quality Time (undistracted attention), Physical Affection (touch and intimacy), Emotional Support (feeling heard and championed), Fun (shared laughter and playfulness), and Security (trust and reliability).

Each area fills a different emotional need. Most people have 1-2 tanks that matter most to them, similar to love languages.

Be honest about the past month specifically. This isn't about what you intend to do or what you did once. It's about your consistent patterns recently. The more honest you are, the more useful your results will be.

Answer based on how often you've actually done each action, not how much you want to or plan to. There are no wrong answers, just honest reflections that help identify where to focus.

Low scores aren't failures. They're opportunities for growth. Life gets busy and certain tanks naturally drain faster than others. Knowing which tanks need attention lets you focus your energy where it matters most to your partner.

Your results include specific tips for filling each tank. Small, consistent deposits add up quickly. Even a few intentional actions per week can transform a low-scoring area.

Yes! The most powerful approach is for each partner to take it separately, assessing how well YOU'VE been filling THEIR tanks. Then compare results. This often reveals interesting differences in perception.

These conversations can spark meaningful discussions about what each of you needs most. For more couple insights, try our Compatibility Calculator or Relationship Stress Test.

Monthly check-ins work well for most couples. Your love tank levels change based on life circumstances, stress, and how intentional you've been. Regular assessment helps you stay aware of your partner's emotional needs.

Consider retaking after major life changes (new job, move, baby, etc.) or if you notice your partner seems emotionally distant. It's a quick way to identify what might need attention.